We are entering into the time of the year where we will be gathering with family and friends. Most people look forward to participating in this special bonding time. An unexpected pregnancy may cause some women stress around these festivities because they will be encountering some family or friends, who may be seeing them pregnant for the first time or just finding out about the pregnancy.
Tips for Navigating Your Feelings During the Holidays
Telling people about an unplanned pregnancy in private is hard enough but facing that task at a family/friend gathering is uncomfortable at best. Here are some tips to help you manage your feelings and participate in holiday gatherings this year.
- Look in the mirror and identify what you feel about this unplanned pregnancy. Be honest. What is the hardest part of this pregnancy that is causing you embarrassment? The timing, relationship status, the idea that you would never let “this” happen to you are common thoughts women have expressed.
- Take time with the specific struggle you have trouble accepting with this pregnancy. Talking with a trusted friend or Birthright Counselor prior to the holiday gatherings can help reduce stress and increase your confidence.
- By facing our weaknesses, we begin to realize we are like everyone else when it comes to not being perfect. Our imperfections may be different, but we all need loving people around us to support us for who we are.
- Owning the truth about the goodness and the struggles your pregnancy has brought into your life helps you be your authentic self. You will not have to pretend everything is great and you will not have to hold your head in shame.
- You are the same person you have always been to your family and friends. Let them know how to love you through this time by openly talking about your experience.
- Do not forget to ask them about themselves and be a support to what is going on in their lives as well.
- Remember you are loved before, during, and after this pregnancy. Call Birthright Counseling if you have forgotten that truth.
I’m overwhelmed, What Can I Do?
If you are feeling overwhelmed by an unexpected pregnancy, you are not alone. Birthright’s professional counselors are ready to listen to you, no matter how big or small you think your problem is. You matter, our counseling sessions are free, and the help is real. Contact Birthright Counseling today to speak with a counselor.