October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
Birthright Counseling, St. Louis would like to call attention to abuse and domestic violence, especially as it relates to pregnant women. We realize there is no easy answer for a pregnant woman walking away from an abusive relationship or currently in one. Two things are certain: 1. Many women have gone on to live happy lives apart from their abusers, and 2. Talking with a safe, non-judgmental friend and/or professional is key.
Experiences of trauma and abuse are common among the women we work with at Birthright. Whether an isolated childhood experience or chronic trauma continuing into adulthood, these shape the way a person interacts and the way they approach pregnancy and parenting.
At Birthright we strive to be a safe and secure place to moms dealing with current and past traumatic experiences, including domestic violence, abusive childhoods, and dysfunctional family and peer relationships. We know that the moms we work with are trying very hard to be present for their own child and often need additional time and patience from those around them as they figure out how to be the parent they desire.
Birthright counselors strive to meet them where they are at in this journey and strive to be a positive support person. We are present to women through verbal encouragement and assistance with practical support to help alleviate the stressors of preparing for a new baby.
How Do You Know If You’re In An Abusive Relationship?
It’s common for couples to argue now and then. But violence and emotional abuse are different from the minor conflicts that couples have.
Ask yourself:
- Does my partner always put me down and make me feel bad about myself?
- Has my partner caused harm or pain to my body?
- Does my partner threaten me, the baby, my other children or himself?
- Does my partner blame me for his actions? Does he tell me it’s my own fault he hit me?
- Is my partner becoming more violent as time goes on?
- Has my partner promised never to hurt me again, but still does?
If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, you may be in an unhealthy relationship.
What Can You Do? Get Help
Recognizing that you are in an abusive relationship is making the first step towards help.
You can always contact Birthright Counseling, whether you are pregnant or not, and our counselors will gladly make referrals so that you can move toward safety. Local organizations such as Saint Martha’s, Jadasa, The Women’s Safe House, and ALIVE offer quick, direct assistance. Or seek 24/7 help with the National Domestic Abuse Hotline.
Birthright counselors offer free safe places for pregnant women to find their way to living a violent-free life. Our counselors are experienced in the areas of trauma, domestic violence, mental health, substance use, housing, support systems, community resources, and more. Birthright would love to help you in your journey.
Contact us today.